Healthy Boundaries In Your Dating and Relationships.
What are boundaries and how do they affect your relationship with your kingdom spouse and other people in general??
Boundaries are perimeters that you set in your life, for what you are will accept and what you will not accept of other people’s behavior towards you.
Implementing boundaries can be hard when one is wounded. Fear of abandonment or rejection always gets in the way.
Boundaries are like a protective room and the door separates you from where the other room for the other person starts.
In the wild you see the Lion marking his territory, he sprays some chemicals from his body around his territory to warn other Lions to stay out.
Boundaries are your feelings and desires which you never want to get entangled with the feelings and desires of the person you are interacting with.
Setting boundaries helps you not only in your love life but also in all your other Relationships.
Healthy boundaries protect you from abuse, manipulation, conflicts , confusion, control because you only allow in what feels good to you.
When your kingdom man is running away, it will turn you off and bore you instead of you chasing him.
Personal boundaries in dating .
How long do you wait your man when he is late for a date?? 5 minutes, 10 minutes, 30 minutes? I can only wait for 5 minutes.
Do you drive to a man or go to meet him on your first date?? In this time and age you need discernment. It is not the same for everybody.
Some of you will go to meet someone thinking you heard the Holy Spirit correctly, when it was your own voice or the angel of iniquity.
It’s better to pray and ask for direction, I talk about this in my program.
if you are not sure, it’s best to meet in a public place where you are familiar with. First dates, while it’s better 30 minutes to 1 hour.
Do you bring a man to your house or apartment on your first date??
I don’t bring a man to my house until after three dates because by then I will know if he is not a counterfeit. I never have dates at my house until after three months.
Again you need discernment here, because some of you after you have done all the work, your marriage can happen very quickly within a short period of time.
Do you give a key to your apartment to a man you are just dating ?? No
Do you go out on Random dates?? No , I plan everything, I have a busy schedule.
I’m not a pizza delivery.
Do you do sex texting or engage in sex with a man you are dating or use your mouth or sex toys before marriage or after marriage???
Not at all, These things are designed to promote sexual immorality. They are not of God.
I don’t pay on dates, a man needs to invest in me.
I don’t continue to see a man who is inconsistent with communication and dates.
Valuing yourself and being consistent with boundaries until he gets it , is what will work for you.
How about in a relationship??
How about his female friends or would you prefer mutual friends??
Do you keep secrets and so does he???
What about a joint accounts, what do you say??
Do I move in with a man I’m not married to??
How you feel in your body is what makes boundaries and not your mind. The mind is masculine. As a child of God listen to your feelings, the Holy Spirit teaches you.
Do not make decisions based on your emotions. Proverbs 3: 5-6
Breaking God’s law will not get you a healed kingdom spouse, two unhealed people it’s “a fake love “ . The Holy Spirit departs .
Proverbs 14:1
“The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands”.
Proverbs 14: 12
“There is way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to death”.
Love Angie.
